How to Reach Your New Year’s Resolutions (When You Feel Like Giving Up)

Did you promise yourself you’d do some pretty big things in 2018? Of course you did. Because you’re an entrepreneur, and we know no other way of life, fortunately! And no matter how you feel about the cliche “New Year’s resolutions,” they’re really inevitable in some form. But the holidays have passed and suddenly it’s time to turn all that easily found optimism into reality. We’ve got to sit down and do the work. And it doesn’t take long to realize that doing the work isn’t near as easy, as sexy, as inspiring as making all those glorious plans for a six figure business and a vacation every month lifestyle was. Personally, I found myself with a pit in my stomach, scared, anxious, and doubting through most of New Year’s Day. All this at the mere thought of how much work there was to be done starting the next day. Here’s the Good News If you’re already feeling a little self-doubt about whether you can actually make it all happen, I have good news for you. This doubt and fear is merely your subconscious mind acting the way it’s been programmed to act. Fortunately, and you can change that today.  In today’s video I share with you how I was able to kick my fear to the curb the next day using a simple, back to basics process that should form the structure of your daily work habits. Spend four minutes with the video and ten minutes implementing it in your business, and you’ll be back on track. In fact, you’ll probably find that you’ve underestimated what you can...
Forget New Year, New You. Do This Instead.

Forget New Year, New You. Do This Instead.

In theory, new year resolutions are great. They’re nothing more than goals, which are the lifeblood of a successful entrepreneur. But in reality, new year resolutions suck. Here’s why only 8% of us (at best) keep the “new year, new you” plan we so eagerly embark upon every January 1st. (Next we’ll talk about how to become one of the 8%ers). There are two main reasons the gym is overloaded with people in January and back to normal by February. First, we try to make too many resolutions. Somehow, we expect the completely arbitrary date of January 1 to be the day our life does a total 180. When we wake up on this magical morning, every bad habit we have will be gone, replaced by new productive, healthy, happy habits. But the burden of making all these drastic changes at once becomes too much. And with each small failure to stick to the resolution, our resolve gets weaker, our self-talk turns negative, and we slip into the second reason for failure, which has to do with our subconscious expectation. No matter how bad we tell ourselves this is going to be “my year,” chances are great that your subconscious is singing a whole different tune. Our brain knows that year after year we’ve failed to keep these resolutions. And even worse, our brain knows that IT’S OKAY. It’s completely socially acceptable to fail at your new year resolutions. In fact, I bet many of us would be ostracized in conversation with our friends if we were actually  “that person” who isn’t laughing in February at all their failures....

How to Form a New Habit in One Day

If you think about why some people seem to be successful at everything they do, while others struggle through life, or never even try to reach beyond mediocrity, you might theorize that the successful bunch is smarter, better educated, born with a silver spoon. You might attribute their success to having good connections, being lucky, or having the right personality. Truth is, the biggest difference between those who achieve success and the rest of the world is that successful people have the best habits. I know it sounds a little simplistic, but it’s true. I’ve seen it. And lived it. But don’t take my word for it. You’ve probably heard this from Aristotle: We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then is not an act, but a habit. Brian Tracy put it nicely: Successful people are where they are today as a result of their habits.  Your habits determine fully 95% of your behavior.  Everything that you are or that you will ever accomplish will be determined by the quality of the habits that you form. John Maxwell knows it: The secret of your success is found in your daily routine. And similarly, Jim Rohn observed: Success is nothing more than a few simple disciplines, practiced every day. What Level of Importance Are You Giving “Habits?” Imagine the secret to success being your habits . . . Not the latest SEO strategy to trick Google. Not your number of social media followers, likes and shares. Not even the ability to get endorsements from the gurus in your market. So here’s what I want you to ask yourself >> Do I spend...
Because My Boys ARE Tamir Rice

Because My Boys ARE Tamir Rice

Photo Credit Justice For Tamir Rice FB Page My seven-year-old son said to me a few months back, “I don’t want to get shot and killed when I get big.” This was out of the blue, as his thoughts tend to be. I quickly assured him that he shouldn’t even worry about that. That wasn’t going to happen to him. I purposefully dismissed the thought much quicker than I would have if he wasn’t seven. A time when the thrill of his next basketball game, or lure of his next adventure with a friend should be occupying his mind. He’s a deep kid though. And what came out of his mouth next left tears in my eyes. “But what if I’m walking down the street and a police tells me to move and I’m just trying to get on the grass and he thinks I’m trying to run away and he shoots me?” And so now I’m speechless. Because “what if” . . . A Bad Mom Moment? We live in St. Louis. A ten minute drive from Ferguson in fact. When Michael Brown was murdered, I didn’t talk with my children about it for the first few days. The older ones are 7, 8 and 11, and I didn’t want to take the piece of innocence away from them that would inevitably be stolen when they learned this happened, and why. I thought about how freely my boys (the 7 and 8-year-olds) approach police officers and ask them about all the devices they wear around their belts. I didn’t want them to fear the police. Most are good....
How Breaking the Rules of Christmas Can Make You Happy and Wealthy

How Breaking the Rules of Christmas Can Make You Happy and Wealthy

This year my kids had a gift-free Christmas. I’m still not 100% sure why I made this decision. Likely a combination of a few different reasons. I’ll spare you the details, but let’s just say they’ve behaved badly lately. Not just lately really, it’s become a long-term pattern. One that I can’t seem to break with any consequence I impose. If it was not Christmas time, and they asked me to buy them a toy, the answer would be a clear and unequivocal “no.” Your lack of respect for me, and the peacefulness of our household will not result in you getting what you want anyway. For me, that sends the wrong message. I am not at all a “hard-ass” mom. Not even close. Some of my children, because of bad choices made by their birth moms, have been left with unfair challenges in life. I’m sympathetic to that and I make accommodations for it. But guess what. No one really cares that you started life with a disadvantage. It’s not like you’re gifted a free pass that you can hand out as an excuse for the rest of your life. So I raise them to succeed in spite of the fact that they got a slow start out of the gate. To take responsibility for what they become, and not make excuses. I did not make the gift-free Christmas decision lightly. But I will tell you what eventually made it easy for me. The Rules of Christmas As I began to approach Christmas differently this year, I realized there are actually rules for Christmas. And everyone assumes that you...
Death Row, Online Marketing and My Journey to Change the World

Death Row, Online Marketing and My Journey to Change the World

Prequel The perception is that you’ll find the worst of the worst humans on death row. That they are a scary bunch of men, or maybe even “animals,” that you and I would never have a single thing in common with.  And maybe you won’t believe me when I tell you that nothing could be further from the truth. That you could learn more about life and success and failure from many death row inmates than you will from 4 or 6 or even 12 years of higher education. But it’s fact. (You might find an interesting tidbit of support for the fact in this article about prison inmates beating the Harvard debate team!) Anyway  . . . what’s that got to do with online marketing, and changing the world? You’ll see in a minute. Stick with me. For 25 years I was a criminal defense attorney. Not the kind you see on TV, where the actors choose the cases they take, and free the wrongfully accused after 60 action-packed minutes. And not the “real” attorneys you see on the TV news, who wrangle the multi-million dollar athletes’ murder charges down to traffic violations.  I worked for the poor. Appointed to represent those who couldn’t pay, but were facing jail time. Fresh out of law school, it started with drunk driving and suspended license charges. Within seven years, I had devoted my practice to representing those charged with crimes carrying the death penalty, who didn’t have the 100K+ it took to defend against such charges (or even $100 without the “K” in most cases).  Ten different times throughout my...