How to Form a New Habit in One Day

If you think about why some people seem to be successful at everything they do, while others struggle through life, or never even try to reach beyond mediocrity, you might theorize that the successful bunch is smarter, better educated, born with a silver spoon. You might attribute their success to having good connections, being lucky, or having the right personality. Truth is, the biggest difference between those who achieve success and the rest of the world is that successful people have the best habits. I know it sounds a little simplistic, but it’s true. I’ve seen it. And lived it. But don’t take my word for it. You’ve probably heard this from Aristotle: We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then is not an act, but a habit. Brian Tracy put it nicely: Successful people are where they are today as a result of their habits.  Your habits determine fully 95% of your behavior.  Everything that you are or that you will ever accomplish will be determined by the quality of the habits that you form. John Maxwell knows it: The secret of your success is found in your daily routine. And similarly, Jim Rohn observed: Success is nothing more than a few simple disciplines, practiced every day. What Level of Importance Are You Giving “Habits?” Imagine the secret to success being your habits . . . Not the latest SEO strategy to trick Google. Not your number of social media followers, likes and shares. Not even the ability to get endorsements from the gurus in your market. So here’s what I want you to ask yourself >> Do I spend...
Because My Boys ARE Tamir Rice

Because My Boys ARE Tamir Rice

Photo Credit Justice For Tamir Rice FB Page My seven-year-old son said to me a few months back, “I don’t want to get shot and killed when I get big.” This was out of the blue, as his thoughts tend to be. I quickly assured him that he shouldn’t even worry about that. That wasn’t going to happen to him. I purposefully dismissed the thought much quicker than I would have if he wasn’t seven. A time when the thrill of his next basketball game, or lure of his next adventure with a friend should be occupying his mind. He’s a deep kid though. And what came out of his mouth next left tears in my eyes. “But what if I’m walking down the street and a police tells me to move and I’m just trying to get on the grass and he thinks I’m trying to run away and he shoots me?” And so now I’m speechless. Because “what if” . . . A Bad Mom Moment? We live in St. Louis. A ten minute drive from Ferguson in fact. When Michael Brown was murdered, I didn’t talk with my children about it for the first few days. The older ones are 7, 8 and 11, and I didn’t want to take the piece of innocence away from them that would inevitably be stolen when they learned this happened, and why. I thought about how freely my boys (the 7 and 8-year-olds) approach police officers and ask them about all the devices they wear around their belts. I didn’t want them to fear the police. Most are good....
How Breaking the Rules of Christmas Can Make You Happy and Wealthy

How Breaking the Rules of Christmas Can Make You Happy and Wealthy

This year my kids had a gift-free Christmas. I’m still not 100% sure why I made this decision. Likely a combination of a few different reasons. I’ll spare you the details, but let’s just say they’ve behaved badly lately. Not just lately really, it’s become a long-term pattern. One that I can’t seem to break with any consequence I impose. If it was not Christmas time, and they asked me to buy them a toy, the answer would be a clear and unequivocal “no.” Your lack of respect for me, and the peacefulness of our household will not result in you getting what you want anyway. For me, that sends the wrong message. I am not at all a “hard-ass” mom. Not even close. Some of my children, because of bad choices made by their birth moms, have been left with unfair challenges in life. I’m sympathetic to that and I make accommodations for it. But guess what. No one really cares that you started life with a disadvantage. It’s not like you’re gifted a free pass that you can hand out as an excuse for the rest of your life. So I raise them to succeed in spite of the fact that they got a slow start out of the gate. To take responsibility for what they become, and not make excuses. I did not make the gift-free Christmas decision lightly. But I will tell you what eventually made it easy for me. The Rules of Christmas As I began to approach Christmas differently this year, I realized there are actually rules for Christmas. And everyone assumes that you...
Death Row, Online Marketing and My Journey to Change the World

Death Row, Online Marketing and My Journey to Change the World

Prequel The perception is that you’ll find the worst of the worst humans on death row. That they are a scary bunch of men, or maybe even “animals,” that you and I would never have a single thing in common with.  And maybe you won’t believe me when I tell you that nothing could be further from the truth. That you could learn more about life and success and failure from many death row inmates than you will from 4 or 6 or even 12 years of higher education. But it’s fact. (You might find an interesting tidbit of support for the fact in this article about prison inmates beating the Harvard debate team!) Anyway  . . . what’s that got to do with online marketing, and changing the world? You’ll see in a minute. Stick with me. For 25 years I was a criminal defense attorney. Not the kind you see on TV, where the actors choose the cases they take, and free the wrongfully accused after 60 action-packed minutes. And not the “real” attorneys you see on the TV news, who wrangle the multi-million dollar athletes’ murder charges down to traffic violations.  I worked for the poor. Appointed to represent those who couldn’t pay, but were facing jail time. Fresh out of law school, it started with drunk driving and suspended license charges. Within seven years, I had devoted my practice to representing those charged with crimes carrying the death penalty, who didn’t have the 100K+ it took to defend against such charges (or even $100 without the “K” in most cases).  Ten different times throughout my...

Goal Setting is a Depressing Waste of Time

If this is your honest attitude about goal setting, you are not alone. I’ve been there. More than once. It’s not your fault. (More on that later). But now, we’ve got to change this attitude. And the good news is, we can. I did, and I’ll help you do it. I dove into goal setting head first and full of excitement when I began my personal development journey. I still get a little pit in my stomach when I remember stumbling upon a list of goals in an old notebook, over a year after I made them. It was a list of “stuff” I wanted in my life. Some of it no longer mattered to me. And sadly, none of that supposedly well-thought-out list of things I wanted, had actually come to be. What was suppose to be a life-changing exercise for the better, worked only to drive me farther from what I thought I wanted, and deeper into depression. Why bother making lists of wishes that never come true? Who needs lists full of reminders of what you don’t have? Never one to be denied, I pressed on. Buying every program and plan I could get my hands on that taught the real way to do goal setting. Result? More pages of wishes unfulfilled. I loved the concept of making goals and crossing them off the list in moments of profound satisfaction. But, it just wasn’t happening. So, I quit. I kept my goals rolling around in my head. I kept telling myself I was more resolved than ever to get what I wanted. (Whatever that meant). But writing down...

1 Small Tweak that Gets Big Results in Your Business

I talk to people who aren’t making the money they want in their online business, and aren’t serving the number of people they want to, almost daily. I also regularly talk to those who are making it happen. As a person who’s had a lot of success, and had a lot of struggle, one of the things I focus on is studying entrepreneurs who are extremely successful. The big question I have for those who have lots of clients, and lots of profits, is: What separates you from the entrepreneurs who are trying, but can’t build a profitable business? I’ve never seen or heard answers that show successful entrepreneurs to be smarter, luckier, or full of better ideas than the rest of the world. To the contrary, online business owners who “make it” do so because of the mindset they develop, and the habits they put into practice. In today’s video, I’m going to share with you the one factor that is the essential foundation for any successful business strategy. If you aren’t getting the results you want in your online business, there are likely several things you’ll need to do to change that. But, it all starts with one common ground. I’ll then give you a simple exercise to get you started. Finally, I’ll explain why this process is scientifically proven to give you better results in your life and business than other methods you’ve probably tried in the past. Enjoy the video! Now, here’s the catch. First, most people won’t take time to watch the video. If you did, you’re halfway there. But, second, of those who...