How Breaking the Rules of Christmas Can Make You Happy and Wealthy

How Breaking the Rules of Christmas Can Make You Happy and Wealthy

This year my kids had a gift-free Christmas. I’m still not 100% sure why I made this decision. Likely a combination of a few different reasons. I’ll spare you the details, but let’s just say they’ve behaved badly lately. Not just lately really, it’s become a long-term pattern. One that I can’t seem to break with any consequence I impose. If it was not Christmas time, and they asked me to buy them a toy, the answer would be a clear and unequivocal “no.” Your lack of respect for me, and the peacefulness of our household will not result in you getting what you want anyway. For me, that sends the wrong message. I am not at all a “hard-ass” mom. Not even close. Some of my children, because of bad choices made by their birth moms, have been left with unfair challenges in life. I’m sympathetic to that and I make accommodations for it. But guess what. No one really cares that you started life with a disadvantage. It’s not like you’re gifted a free pass that you can hand out as an excuse for the rest of your life. So I raise them to succeed in spite of the fact that they got a slow start out of the gate. To take responsibility for what they become, and not make excuses. I did not make the gift-free Christmas decision lightly. But I will tell you what eventually made it easy for me. The Rules of Christmas As I began to approach Christmas differently this year, I realized there are actually rules for Christmas. And everyone assumes that you...

How to Take Your Online Business One Step Above the Rest

Welcome to Simple Saturday.  I hope you’ve designed the perfect weekend for yourself. My super simple, yet super effective tip for today has to do with how to separate your online business from the 95% of those who are struggling. Have you noticed that everyone seems to be starting an online business these days?  Actually, that’s not true, but if you hang out in the world of entrepreneurs, it sure does seem like just about every online market is a noisy one. How then, will you ever get people to notice you over the crowd? Do you need the best graphics?  A million dollar sales letter?  The lastest product on ninja website traffic secrets? The answer is not what you might think. If you’ve spent any time online, I’m sure you’ve bought eBooks and thought, “hmm, I could have done better than that writing in my sleep!” Or seen sales letters that look something like this: “Get you’re hands on this game changing product befor its to late.  Your going to love it!” And yes, despite their lack of knowledge, writing abilities, or grammar and spell-checking skills, these people are selling stuff.  And running a successful online business. It’s not because they’re smarter than you (obviously).  It’s not because they’ve bought the newest “how to” product and discovered the secret to online business success. It’s because they have Discipline. Yes, a successful online business requires a certain level of competence.  But the number one distinguishing factor between the rich entrepreneur and the poor is discipline. Because what’s easy to do is even easier not to do. Discipline breeds consistency.  And consistency...

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.: Online Business Lessons For Today

Martin Luther King Day became a federal holiday in 2000. I have always loved this holiday.  I can’t really articulate a specific reason for it. Dr. King has long been one of my greatest inspirations.  His picture and quotes grace the walls of many of my rooms. His message likely became even more special to me as children with African heritage became part of my family. All very nice, you’re probably thinking, but what does Martin Luther King have to do with my online business? Two things. First, Dr. King Exemplifies What it Takes to be Successful He had a passion, he had an unwavering belief in his mission, his success would solve a huge problem for many, and he worked tirelessly to get his message out to as many people as he could. Sound a little like you?  If you are passionate about your business, believe without a doubt in what you are doing, are solving a huge problem for your market, and work tirelessly to do so ~ you will come out a personal and business success. Excuse me if I sound a little melodramatic, comparing your business to the civil rights movement.  But, don’t underestimate the importance of what you are doing. Many of you have businesses that provide life-changing services to people.  All of you have businesses that are solving problems for people.  You are important.  If you don’t get that, you should either start taking your business more seriously, or get a job. Your online business is also of huge significance to your life.  Your success may enable you (or your partner) to stay...

A Personal Note to the Non-Believers

Many of us are beautifully optimistic in our New Year expressions. I can’t count how many Facebook posts I “liked,” tweets I “re-tweeted,” and Google+ status’s I “1+’d” over the last week.  They all spoke, in various verse, of how many great changes the New Year was going to bring into each person’s life. And while I want everyone whose path I cross to be wildly successful in 2012, we all know that the odds are against most. Once you have signed off social media, and set down to make the real work happen, do doubts start to creep in?  Does “reality” hit when you look at what’s got to be done to meet your online business goals?  By the end of January, are you back in the frustration of not making it happen? Obviously, there’s a huge difference in saying you’re going to make it happen in the New Year, and actually making it happen. Unfortunately, I think the reason most people don’t find the success they are looking for is that they don’t take the time to really believe they can do it. Today, I’m going to share with you 3 examples from my life that you can use to push yourself past your doubts and back into belief. 1.  You Decide What’s Possible Most of your doubts are the result of what society ~ including your friends and family ~ defines as possible and proper.  But you do not have to believe in “impossible.” When I decided to have children, my doctor told me there was only a 2% chance that I would ever get pregnant....

When Success Means Quitting

I learned early on in my network marketing career that “the only way to fail is to quit.” And indeed, every successful person I know has a story about not quitting.  And about how eventually, often on the brink of giving up, he has had the breakthrough that led to multimillion dollar success. You’ve probably heard me tell you to take action.  And to just keep taking action, until your online business is the success you dream about it being as you toil away long past midnight. No doubt, consistent action is the key to success. But I had a conversation with a frustrated online business owner the other day that made me realize something I probably overlook too often. Not just any action will do.  You must take right action. Getting in your car and driving from California to New York without a map would take much longer than doing it with a triptik from AAA.  AAA are the experts.  They know how to get you there. And building a successful online business is like driving from California to New York.  Some stretches will go easier than others.  You will get tired.  You’ll have to stop and rest.  But not for too long, or you’ll never get there. And, you’ll need the right map if you ever want to get there. Here’s what I see far too often.  (And yes, it’s what I did too, for far too long!)  Serious, committed online business owners who pick up a new and different map every 30-60 days.  Inspired by the promise of a quicker and easier route to success. So...

Success Lessons From the Ocean

I’m feeling extra grateful today that I am my own boss.  And that I have a portable office. Today, the white sandy beach is more than meeting my office needs.  And the occasional “watch this, mom!” is less distracting than usual under the clear blue sky. But that’s not really what this is about.  I just can’t ever resist a plug for the work from home (or the beach!) lifestyle. Earlier today I was sitting in the shallow ocean with my 3 and 4-year old boys.  Those tiny waves are like a tsunami when you’re under 3 feet tall. As I was trying to hold on to both of them, and keep their little mouths from filling with some pretty raunchy looking saltwater, I discovered the key to successfully relaxing on the beach. It’s all in the hands of the waves that push forward. The three of us were doing just fine as long as the waves kept coming in.  One after another.  Consistently.  Water pushing forward. The problem came when the waves took too long of a break.  That’s when the undercurrent tried to pull us out of our little space.  Knocking the boys under the water and upsetting our sand castle building and water play. As I struggled to maintain, it occurred to me that this was much like the struggle to build and maintain a successful online business. Like the waves, you must consistently push forward.  In business, this means taking daily action steps that benefit your business. If you don’t, the undercurrent slips in.  It destroys what you had going, and pushes you in the...