How Changing Habits Can Change Your Life

If you were with me for the last two articles in this series on habits, you recognize how crucial habits are to your success. You’ve also identified habits you need to change. Bad habits you need to abandon. Healthy habits you need to adopt. In this final article on habits, we’ll look at how to go about changing habits. The nature of a habit — something you do without thinking, on “autopilot” — can make breaking bad habits very difficult. It’s equally hard to adopt a new healthy habit. Think about it. Adopting a new habit requires that you do, act or think in a certain way without thinking about it. How many times do you have to repeat an action before it becomes a habit? How hard is it to remember, to make time for, your new habit throughout the course of your day? Well, i could write a book in answer to these questions. But, in short, Dr. Maxwell Maltz’s research has established that it takes 21 days to form a new habit. In 21 days the neural pathways in your brain become conditioned to basically act on their own, out of habit. Without you consciously telling yourself what to do. Likewise, changing habits, or breaking the habit that binds you, can be done in 21 days. Although the challenge here is a little stiffer. Apparently it’s easier for our brain to learn a habit than to unlearn a habit. As applied to your home based business, however, it’s really all the same. Chances are, breaking bad work habits involves adopting healthy habits. So instead of thinking...

3 Steps to Identifying Your Bad Habit

Last time we talked about how the difference in success and failure is the difference in a few healthy habits repeated daily and a few bad habits repeated daily. But identifying the bad habit you need to break to get on the success track can be difficult. The nature of a habit is that it’s so routine that you may not even recognize the small errors in judgment you’re making that are completely sabotaging your success. Breaking bad habits requires that you first identify the bad habit, and next figure out how to change it. There are three steps to identifying a bad habit. First, pick an area of your life that you’re looking for change in.Maybe you can’t get your mindset right for success.Maybe you don’t have enough time to work on your business.Maybe you can’t figure out what steps to take to make your business successful. Second, make a list. At the top of a piece of paper, write this: “If only i could . . .” Then list the things that would solve your problem.Answer the question without limitations.In other words, don’t leave off an answer because you think it’s something you can’t do.After you’ve made your list, identify no more than the top 3 things that you could do that would change your problem. In the final step, you have to be honest with yourself. You have to really examine your daily routine. Now it’s time to make a list of what actions you can take, or stop taking, that would contribute towards your “if only i could . . . ” statement coming true. Caution: doing this...

Can Changing Habits Make You Rich?

The faucet on my kitchen sink is broken. I have a regular faucet that the water comes out of. Next to that is one of those sprayers that you can pull up out of the sink and use to spray things off. Somehow, the sprayer got stuck. Now, when you turn the water on, it won’t come out the faucet. It only comes out the sprayer. The first few days i kept forgetting about this and was getting sprayed in the face constantly. I finally laid the sprayer down in the sink so the water would at least spray in the sink and not my face when i turned it on. Now, two weeks later (don’t ask, i’ve been busy, i’ll get it fixed) i’m still holding things under the faucet as i turn the water on — expecting for a moment that the water will come out of the faucet. Why? Habit. Breaking the habit of turning the water on and expecting it to come out the faucet is hard. It’s a habit i’ve had since i was young enough to stand on a stool and turn on the water. If someone were to ask what things i do out of habit, it would never occur to me to say “I turn on the faucet and expect that water will come out.” That’s the nature of habit. It’s something we do without thinking about. That’s what makes changing habits so hard. That’s what makes identifying a habit that needs to be changed so hard. But, changing habits can be the difference between success and failure. Let’s take an example of two internet...

The “Real” Secret Behind the Laws of Attraction

Let's face it, the secret law of attraction is really no secret anymore. Anyone who breaths associates the phrase "The Secret" with the book and/or movie about the law of attraction. But the book, and all the hype surrounding it, effectively hide the fact that there are really two "secrets" to the laws of attraction. The first one i talked about last time — you must have a burning desire for something to attract that thing into your life. That one's not a secret anymore.  The only reason people are failing at this first of the laws of attraction is that they are merely "wishing" for things, rather than developing an all-consuming "burning desire" for them. But that was our subject for last time . . . The real secret behind the laws of attraction is rarely even mentioned, and certainly never the focus of those touting both the virtues and the pitfalls of the laws of attraction. Those promoting the laws of attraction in their ebooks and courses don't want to talk about it because it sounds like WORK. We're all searching for a way to get out of WORK, not to sign up for more. Those whining about how the laws of attraction don't work won't talk about the real secret because either (1) they don't know it, or (2) it sounds like WORK. And, you guessed it, who wants to WORK? So what is the second of the laws of attraction? The one that really is still a secret to most. Inspired Action. First, you must have a burning desire to achieve something. Second, you must take inspired action...

Do You Have a Burning Desire to Think and Grow Rich?

Last time we talked about how the secret law of attraction doesn’t work. That is, how you can’t go to sleep affirming how much you want a million dollar house and expect to wake up the next morning in the bed of your million dollar house. If it doesn’t work like that, then how do the laws of attraction work? First, you must recognize that there are two laws of attraction. Practicing only one of the laws of attraction will get you no further than down the road of frustration. The two laws of attraction are truly two halves of the whole. The first law is known by many, yet understood by few. The second law is simply not recognized by most because it doesn’t have the media appeal of the first — it’s not “sexy.” Your first step to mastering the secret law of attraction is that you must have a burning desire. While this concept is easy to talk about, it’s impossible to define in words. When i first started trying to build a successful online business, i used to talk about how much i really wanted the financial freedom that would bring, the time freedom that would give me with my family, the desperately sought-after relief from a stressful career. But, for some reason that i can’t explain, it took me two years to go from simply wishing for, thinking, and saying those things, to developing a burning desire for those things. Since it can’t be defined in words, the best i can do is tell you what it meant to me to find my burning desire. No...